5 Things May Ruin Your First 40 Plus Date
Dating is not difficult when you’re young, but dating over 40 can present its own set of challenges. Often people don’t learn from past mistakes, and are doomed to make the same mistakes when meeting singles over 40. But experiencing feelings of loneliness may have gotten you thinking that you’d like to try a 40 plus relationship. It’s possible to have fun dates, and not worry too much whether the other person is going to be the one for you. You’ll need to avoid some of the more common pitfalls that can ruin your exciting first 40 plus date.
Here are 5 things that may ruin your first 40 plus dating experience.
Using looks to judge a person.
Both men and women do it. They dismiss a person based on their looks. But the truth of the matter is that you can’t be as picky when you get older. Attraction is truly based on a person’s personality, hormonal compatibility, and likes and interests. By the time you’re 40 you need to realize that looks fade, and that they have nothing to do with whether you have a successful relationship with someone, or not. You need to spend time over coffee to see if you truly may be attracted to someone.
Talking only about yourself.
Many people go on dates, then don’t understand why the other person isn’t into them, particularly they droned about themselves all night long. You may be interesting, but your date wants to contribute to the discussion as well. Show some interest in the other person, and ask questions. Divide the chat time up equally between both people. If you find yourself telling a long story, be sure to acknowledge it, and ask your date a question to share the chat load.
Bashing your ex.
Bashing your ex during a date is a bad idea. Your potential mate may be thinking about how you’ll talk behind their back, should the relationship end. Everyone has had a bad relationship, but you don’t need to talk about it during your first meet up. The more optimistic you are about your past relationships, the better your dating partner will feel about you.
Harping about your health issues.
When you’re dating over 40, you don’t need to talk about your health issues. It’s understood that you won’t be as healthy as you were when you were 16. Let people become interested in you, and let the relationship proceed to a state of caring, and then you can then tell them about your high blood pressure or thyroid condition.
A first date is not the time to show up unkempt and unwashed. That shows that you’re not treating the first date seriously. A fresh change of clothes and deodorant is important on the first 40 plus date. Be sure to be clean, and trim hairs. Check yourself carefully in a mirror before you going to keep an appointment. If it’s something you don’t want to see on your date, fix yourself up.